90 Day Fiancé Fans Call Matilda a “Grifter” Over the $16K GoFundMe — But Others Say That’s Unfair

Niles Valentine raised $16,000 from 90 Day Fiancé fans to help bring Matilda Nti to America. Now, some of those same fans are calling her a “grifter.” But an equally loud group is pushing back — and they say the backlash is crossing a line.

The fight broke out this week after the latest episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, where viewers saw Matilda’s life in Ghana: a car, and an upgraded family home. According to reports, fans immediately connected those dots to the GoFundMe money.

So who’s right? Let’s lay out both sides.

Where Did the $16K Go? — Team Angry

To understand the anger, you have to go back to the beginning. After losing his job, Niles set up a GoFundMe asking for $8,000 to cover the costs of bringing Matilda to the United States. Fans doubled it — he raised $16,000, according to TV Shows Ace.

But on this season of The Other Way, Matilda is still in Ghana — and she now has a car and a visibly upgraded family home. That is what set Reddit on fire.

“Well now everyone knows where the $16,000 Niles and her got from the viewing public on GoFundMe,” one fan wrote. “Niles said she blew it all… glad at least there’s something to show for it.” Another added: “These 90 Day shows sure encourage grifting.”

The accusation, in short: the money was meant for an American visa, not a lifestyle upgrade. Team Angry says they were played.

“She Never Grifted Anyone” — Team Matilda

Not so fast, says the other half of the fandom.

Team Matilda argues that nobody has produced a single receipt or proof that the money was misused. A nicer home in Ghana is not evidence of theft, they say — it is evidence a family is getting by. Fans donated voluntarily to help a struggling couple, not to buy shares in their life.

“Calling a woman in Ghana a grifter because she has a car is wild,” one viewer argued. “You all sent that money because you felt sorry for them. That’s what charity is.”

Team Matilda’s bottom line: until someone shows proof, this is just jealousy dressed up as outrage.

The One Question Nobody Can Answer

Here is the part that makes this debate so hard to settle: nobody outside the couple’s inner circle knows where the $16K actually went.

What we do know, according to reports: Matilda left her old apartment not knowing that Niles planned to move to Ghana permanently. The couple is now reportedly considering living with her family, since the family home is in good shape.

And then there is the twist fans keep bringing up: multiple viewers have claimed they spotted Niles and Matilda together in Mobile, Alabama, in early 2026 — which, according to reports, would line up with the timeline of their wedding and the expected processing of her spousal visa. But no photos, no video, no confirmation. For now, it is an unconfirmed rumor, not proof of anything.

If the sightings were real, it would change the entire conversation. If not, the questions stay unanswered.

What TLC Is Showing Now

One thing both sides agree on: The Other Way is leaning into the money storyline hard this season. Whether Niles spoiling Matilda on camera is generous husband behavior or a slow-motion disaster depends entirely on which team you are on.

The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. But in 90 Day Fiancé fandom, the middle is the emptiest place to stand.

So we want to know: are the “grifter” accusations fair, or have fans gone too far with a couple that never asked for more than help? Drop your verdict in the comments — and be honest, because this fandom is split right down the middle.